Marriage

Indian's wedding.

Many experiences have been lived and are still lived by individuals. Some of these experiences are related to health, while other are related to a life transforming event. Other can be spiritual as well. One of them is the story of a passenger among other I was travelling  whith when going home from University of Dschang in Cameroon. In that car driving us to Bafoussam, there was an elder telling us of a decision making process when it comes to choose your wife to be. He had said that, because a wife is someone who will be part of our life, and will spend the rest of our pilgrimage on this earth, we had to make a sound decision. Choose the less evil if not the right person. There are ways to seek help in making such decision. One can pray for guidance, another can seek the help of a traditional healer. Nowadays, some find the guidance from astrologers.

Western's wedding

Coming to his experience, he said that he had pray for GOD to show him which woman he fits to spend the rest of his life with and build a strong family where children given to them by the Almighty will receive the "fear of God "as their education. He continued telling us that, he bought two pairs of shoes with white and black colors. He had prayed for GOD to let the woman who fits him to choose the white color as GOD's choice. He has prayed for a week to get his request transmitted to GOD.
The day had arrived and he went to the first lady, who choosed the black color. Thus she was eliminated as his wife to be. The same day, he went on to buy another black color's shoe so that the second woman will have a choice to make among the pairs of shoes.
In front of the second girl, he presented the pairs of shoes and suddenly she choosed the white color. In regard to this choice, the man invited her to his house for an engagement ceremony. And sixth months later, they became wife and husband and they form a beautiful family of three kids.

I see myself with my wife to be holding
hands like this couple.

Another story is the one of a man. Here the man was looking to make a choice between two ladies. He was in love of two sisters of the same family. He had dreamed of marrying the older sister but was not sure about it, so that is why he thought of a junior sister as his second choice. So, because he was not sure to whom to propose, he asked GOD to show him who to make a proposal. For that, he prayed hard by asking GOD to show him who will fit for a long lasting life of harmony and happiness. His request was to send a message to both of them and that the only girl to call him will be for sure GOD's choice. The first night of his novena, in dreaming, he saw himself with the junior sister pregnant both in the bed holding each other. He thought this might be the response of GOD to his request before the end of the novena. He kept praying till the end of the novena. By then, he sent two letters to the sisters and received no call from them. The only person who replied in written was the junior sister with whom they were holding each other with the pregnancy in his bed during his dream.
The question here is to know if GOD has choosen to answer differently or if this was a negative answer to tell him that none of them fitted him.

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11 Years old Girl combatting
children marriage

The guy having not a call from one of them but a written response from the little sister was confused and could not figured out what the next step to take. By default(Because his original request-phone call- was not granted), one can say GOD has choosen to answer differently. The guy went on and decided to talk to the older sister first and he was waiting for her to reject his proposal because the former had not responded neither in writting nor in phone calling. When deceived, he started to move to the little sister and discovered that she was nineteen (19) years old or that he was 18 years older than her. This gap in age had discouraged him to make a proposal to the little sister.  

Wedding's rings

It was obvious that the girl you wants for marriage is not the one GOD has in store for you. Sometimes she is the one GOD has choosen for you. We have to have a spiritual attitude to listen to GOD and make a good decision based on his will. This necessarily comes through prayer, and constant meditation. Marriage is an institution that guarrantees the perinity of our society and, we need to make sure that the woman with whom we partner with fits our nature so to create an harmony, peace,happinness and well being of the children. Thus for the society at large.
Coming back to the last story, can we say that, the little sister was his wife to be or, by not choosing to make a proposal to her was lacking faithfull lecture of GOD's will?